Showing Up Boldly, Passionately, and Fabulously for International Woman’s Day

(Photo by minted sugar)

Happy INTERNATIONAL WOMAN’S DAY! (It’s technically tomorrow but I’m celebrating the entire weekend) 💋

What a week this has been. We’ve been a beautiful Virgo moon cycle; representing a rise in the feminine power, a call out to the Goddess within. It’s a time of embracing our power, healing all that requires mending, and remembering how beautifully complete we are just because we exist. The feminine power within your cells is calling you home – leading you to connect with your inner truth.

According to the HartRoks Full Moon Report:
Our feminine energy reminds us that life is here for the living, and invites us to take the time to laugh, dance, sing, create, love ourselves deeply, but also break the very linear ‘masculine’ rules of the world and be wild!
You might find that some boundaries need to be set in order for your full feminine energy to shine in a vulnerable light. Perhaps it’s simply worth noting how and where within your life you use your Feminine energy or perhaps where it has been suppressed and then allow the power of the full moon to illuminate a pathway to reconnecting you to your Feminine Flow.

How beautiful, right? That energy has been coursing through me. Flowing in the direction of healing past wounds and stepping fully into the feminine power that I possess. As with most healing, I’ve encountered situations created with the sole purpose to test me, challenge me, and help me to grow. Instead of lighthearted singing, dancing, and love – this moon has been challenging me to embrace the entirety of the power that it my own. Power that’s been repressed in the past.

REPRESSED POWER

I know I’m not alone in my story: a little girl taught to behave, to be obedient, to be silent, to never argue or show anger. And if that wasn’t followed…then you received a spanking or multiple spankings, or punishment of some other kind. Literally beaten in some way (either verbally or physically) into submission.

When we look back at this we see how ridiculous it is to spend time training our children to repress their thoughts, emotions, and opinions. However, especially in the 80s/90s before it was really understood – it was a typical or even expected way to raise children. My parents prided themselves in how strict they were and how ‘well behaved’ I was. I remember one time wanting to do something and my dad said ‘as a little girl you were a safety sam, you never did anything that might hurt you – why would you want to do that? I miss trusting that you were safety sam and would never do anything to hurt yourself’. Now, we aren’t talking about self harm or physical endangerment here. We’re talking about things like taking a risk in life. The types of things you HAVE to do – take a risk and ask for the promotion. Take a risk and quit your job because your employer sucks. Take a risk and move to a new state. You see what I mean?

Now I don’t remember what my dad and I were talking about. But it did make me stop and think – I was safety sam, wasn’t I? I was terrified to do anything out of the norm. And it’s easy as a parent to like that about a child because…it’s easy! You don’t have to worry about them as much as the wildling, right? But what about the future?? It’s like the equivalent to sitting a kid in front of the TV all of the time, it’s easier to do that in the moment and not really worry about future consequences (not saying all or any TV is wrong, but you get the analogy).

What about suppressed anger? Never learning how to safely and properly release emotion? What about speaking out against things you disagree with? Or acting in a way that doesn’t represent a ‘good, obedient girl’? Were you taught how to respect your own boundaries and your worth while also respecting others? I know I wasn’t!

I was raised religious – and I’ve noticed something really common in most religions; in the church everyone is generally expected to respect and be friends with each other. And with that expectation comes allowing certain people to tell you how to live your life and somehow it becomes rude to ignore these unwanted opinions. I’ll give you an example (true story): A woman in the church who’s married to an elder thinks it’s improper that I am listening to a song about love before I’m old enough to get married. She expresses her opinion and, because she was offended by the song I was listening to, I am no longer allowed to listen to the song. WHAT IN THE ACTUAL FUCK? But…does this sound familiar? Having to adjust what you love/like/do/believe/etc because someone else disagrees and their happinesses is presented to be more important than your own.

Do you resonate with any of these experiences or feelings? Think back to your life

– have people told you that your actions were the reason something bad happened to you?

– Have you allowed others to blame you for something that wasn’t your fault (and believed them)?

– Have you stopped yourself from doing what you wanted to make others feel better?

– Have you cancelled plans because someone else thought you shouldn’t be doing that/going there?

– Have you given your power away because you thought someone else could make the decision better than you or because you were afraid to make it for yourself?

– Have you stopped yourself from doing something you wanted to do because *gasp* someone else might not agree with it or understand it or whatever??

TAKE YOUR FUCKING POWER BACK

It’s time for another story….

Have you seen my insta or FB stories? I look pretty awesome with my beautiful new hair style. Let me interrupt this story to show you in case you missed this fabulous new do:

So pretty, very happy with the color – I am the perfect red head haha.

Back to my story:

Now some of this story contains others limiting beliefs being projected onto me. I don’t blame anyone for their own opinions, everyone is welcome to feel however they want to – but think about how you react when others project their beliefs onto your situation. *especially* if they preface it with love or like they’re doing you a favor.

(Originally posted to FB on March 6th)
I have had the biggest revelation! Digging deep into beliefs and manifestation and really getting to the root of it all.
The past couple of weeks have been stressful, frustrating, and a little shitty!
I decided to keep my hair appointment even though I wasn’t entirely sure if it was a good idea. And I finished reading Get rich lucky bitch while having my hair done. I had a bit of anxiety – is this the right thing for me to be doing right now…the money could be used elsewhere, etc. So, I did some journaling on that as well.
I went to go leave – and THEY HAD DYED MY SHIRT RED!! Like ruined my shirt. I got all dressed up to feel amazing, couldn’t wait to take my fresh hairdo out on the town. And they ruined my evening, I had to change all of my plans, rush home, try to get it soaking quickly…
I made a video and put it on my socials about my experience and lesson learned – so I won’t go into it here. But, I learned a hardcore valuable lesson (actually the lessons continue and I am realizing where SO many of my blocks have come from!). Not only do I give others my power to avoid conflict, but also – *a family member* replied to my video was such a classic BS limiting belief of her own! She blamed me!
And I thought back and realized…when someone stole my purse – *a different family member* accused me of being responsible, said that I ‘enticed’ someone and should have been more careful. Like what?!
I almost took the video down when I saw her comment. I almost agreed with her and said you’re right. For a split second, I allowed her judgement of me to hinder the whole point of the video. And then duh – it occurred to me, she’s projecting the exact belief system that I am fighting in the video onto me.
From this day forward, I promise the Universe that I will stand in my power and continue to learn from every experience. I don’t need anymore of these intense lessons – I have learned my lesson and am now completely aware of my inability to owning embody my strength and my power. I’m putting the shovel down, no longer digging holes for myself. My new way to view every situation of conflict – what would J.Lo do? Because seriously…would she let them just brush her off and act like it was no big deal?! No way!
Thank you Universe for this amazing lesson. I feel a huge block being lifted away from me, off of my shoulders, and I can see so much more clearly now.

*THE VIDEO THAT EXPLAINS THE ENTIRE SITUATION AND DELVES DEEPER INTO WORTHINESS, BEING A FEMALE RAISED TO BE TIMID, AND HOW TO HANDLE UNCOMFORTABLE SITUATIONS IS BELOW*

ENERGETIC BOUNDARIES ARE THE SHIT

Now, since I had this interesting encounter with my family member, the comment has since been removed (not by me) and is no longer available. And I’d like to point out this fabulous test from the Universe – when others project their limiting beliefs onto you and you stand in your own power anyway, amazing things happen! People respect your newfound confidence and strength. Often times the old resistance will be removed because people will notice that you can’t be swayed and they will stop trying! When you fully align with your power, people back TF up, they energetically understand (even if it’s not at the conscious level) that you are no longer available for those ideas and you’ll notice this resistance will stop showing up.

I want to tell another story – one that is a beautiful example of people respecting your boundaries, even if it takes them a little while:

My Oma (may she Rest In Peace), opa, and myself were in the car on a road trip to somewhere and a song came on the radio (Before he cheats by Carrie Underwood). As you have already gathered – music was a pretty big trigger for my parents and they were very sensitive to the things I listened to. I asked them to change the station because it was a song I wasn’t allowed to listen to. My Oma said something along the lines of ‘this isn’t a bad song! It’s fun! There’s nothing wrong with it!’ and turned it up and began to sing along. I secretly loved that song but it put me in a weird situation because I wanted to sing along but I also wanted to obey my parents; I was extremely uncomfortable but since my first attempts to speak out had been rejected, I just sat there.

My opa saw how clearly uncomfortable I was, and he had a chat with her (in private long after the situation was over so he didn’t make her look small or criticize her in-front of me – which is another example of respect that I still remember clearly). Days later Oma apologized for making me feel uncomfortable and for putting me in that situation. I was just a little girl, but she still apologized to me for not listening to my request. It wasn’t even that big of a deal – and yet she treated me with respect and I’ll never forget that.

This is how it SHOULD be. Even if something is not that ‘big of a deal’, if someone makes us uncomfortable – speak up! If they refuse to listen, it doesn’t mean that you were wrong, it means they lacked respect for you (or they didn’t realize what they were doing, my Oma didn’t realize she had made me uncomfortable).

INTERNATIONAL WOMAN’S DAY CLEANSE

This weekend, in celebrations of this beautiful holiday, I encourage you to do a deep dive into ways that you’ve been holding yourself back, withholding or giving away your power, or allowing others to push their opinions onto you and accepting them as fact.

Make a long list of every memory you have of being told to stay small, of being suppressed, rejected, made to feel worthless, told you weren’t enough, undermined, negatively influenced, taken advantage of, or any other negative experience you come up with.

Go thru the list…

THANK EACH MEMORY for all it taught you. Thank it for the experience so you can know what you don’t tolerate any longer.

FORGIVE yourself for any part that you might have played (or that you feel responsible for) in the situation. Love the situation for the part it played in your life, even if it was a negative situation, simply love it for being in the past and no longer apart of your present or future. FORGIVE AND RELEASE. Forgive yourself for any negative feelings you’ve held onto, forgive others for the part they played, forgive the pain, forgive your anger, whatever forgiveness you need to experience to allow you to release the experience entirely.

Then, LET IT GO. Ask the universe for help reframing the memory – could it be remembered in a different light (for example, I have many memories of fear of paying for bills or random expenses…but do any of those bills still linger over my head years later – nope! So instead of remembering the fear, I chose to look at the situation differently, as something that was taken care of in the end and not worth stressing over.) Or ask the Universe for help to take any pain/stress/emotional attachment you still have left and help you release it.

THIS IS THE HOLIDAY FOR TAKING YOU POWER BACK

Ask the Universe (or God, Spirit Guides, Source Energy, Your Higher Self) for help if you need it. Now’s your time. This is your permission slip to let the Goddess out and shine as bight as possible, beautiful. Head over to my insta to see what I’m doing to celebrate all my amazing Goddesses this weekend!

– AND – if you’re reading this when it goes live, this weekend is the last weekend to get my coaching packages at their current price. The price goes up Sunday night at Midnight, so if you’d like to take advantage of my coaching and haven’t pulled the trigger yet, now’s the time! Fill out the one on one coaching application before Monday and you’ll reserve the current pricing.

International Woman's Day for my Goddesses

Much Love,
Emma XOXO